the way we RELATE
RELATING RITUAL
Between the 1600-1800’s, there was a tradition among families to light a courting candle when a potential suitor came a “courtin”. It was an act to set boundaries between the man of the house and his daughter. The father would like the candle in the sitting room where the couple conversed. When the candle burnt to the metal, it was time for the suitor to leave.
We have come a long way since, and although the significance, rules and traditions have since outdated, the ritual behind creating a space, a moment in time, to connect and “relate” between another or yourself, is something I feel should be acknowledged and revisited.
I feel that this pandemic has alerted us to the precious sense “ time”. As well providing a rare and great opportunity for the global collective to slow down, tune in and become aware to who we are as individuals and as a community.
I feel it ’s NOW, we need to pay attention and find ways to “RELATE, again, with ourselves, others and all our surroundings.
The relating ritual is grounded in the act of creating space, time and “ being present” with yourself, others and the place and space in which you find yourself day to day.
TAKE NOTE OF THE RITUAL:
Create a SPACE
Away from distractions and noise. Turn off your phone and other devices. Find some stillness. Perhaps invite some comfort into this experience with cozy pillows, blankets, and objects that induce calm and connection.
LIGHT the Candle.
Find a candle and light it. Take a few moments to look at the lit flame of light, and reflect on an intention to your “relation” and that moment.
This can be with yourself, your partner, kids, pet, family, friends, or parents. Whomever you choose to connect and relate to the present.
Commit and Dedicate
a certain amount of “TIME” to this ritual of WITNESSING and RELATING. Acknowledge the existence of you, the other and the space. The amount of time committed to this is up to you. You set the boundaries and rules and allow them to change and flow within your schedule.